This is from early last week, but a good read on “what they think of you”. In this case, the Wilmington News Journal has news for all you rubes who think you’re Rambo with your “self defense”. Think long and hard before you injure or kill someone in self-defense, because there are psychic scars along with the threat of the criminals’ buddies coming after you (link):
It’s one thing to watch a Hollywood hero shoot a bad guy on film. It’s something entirely different when it happens in real life.
“It wasn’t like the movies,” said 21-year-old A.T., describing how he twice shot a 17-year-old would-be robber on Nov. 8 after wrestling a .22-caliber handgun from him.
“I never shot a gun before that,” said A.T., who wanted only his initials used for fear of retribution. “I never held one.”
“It’s going to really mess your head up.”
A little more than a week later, on Nov. 17, a 55-year-old Wilmington liquor store clerk got into a shootout with two robbers and killed 20-year-old Kendel Miller.
Both have since had to struggle with the knowledge that in protecting themselves they inflicted pain — even death — on someone else.
And both have been left to wonder what long-term toll their acts of self-defense will take on them.
“These things don’t just go away for people,” said Dr. Carol A. Tavani, executive director of Christiana Psychiatric Services. “People have flashbacks and nightmares about these things.”
Their emotional reactions also can lead to post-traumatic stress disorder, which results in ongoing anxiety after a trauma such as a shooting.
“I think that it’s a lot to expect someone to be able to deal with this on their own,” she said.
Still, some, like A.T., opt not to seek help and try to deal with the consequences of their actions on their own.
“I haven’t seen anybody about it, and I’m not going to,” he said. “I try to forget about it.”
But he admits he often finds himself looking back when he walks home from work. That is something he never did before a bandit tried to rob him in Holloway Terrace, near New Castle.
He is haunted by the memory of the would-be thief, who was dressed in a hooded sweat shirt. He also wonders why he didn’t think it was odd that someone suddenly was walking briskly behind him.
“I tried to move off of the curb to let him pass,” he said about Diamere Brady of Wilmington, who later was charged by New Castle County police. “That was the wrong move.”…
The Wilmington liquor store clerk was placed in a similar situation on the cold night he shot Miller, the would-be bandit.
At the time, Miller and a companion walked into the store at 1020 Walnut St. with pistols drawn. After they jumped over the counter to grab money, the clerk pointed his gun back at them and shot Miller once.
After he was struck, Miller dropped his pistol and fled the store dripping blood. Paramedics found him 40 yards away.
He was pronounced dead at Christiana Hospital at 10:15 that night. The store clerk returned to work shortly afterward.
Though he didn’t want to be interviewed or identified, reader reaction on The News Journal’s Web site — www.delawareonline.com — swelled with 114 comments, most expressing concern for the clerk’s well-being.
“God bless the store clerk that he recover from the trauma,” one reader wrote. “Taking a life can’t be easy.”
Despite the expressions of sympathy, Tavani said the clerk undoubtedly knows that “taking another life — justified or not — is never a trivial thing.”
Another clerk at the store said no one wanted to comment because of safety concerns. Since the shooting, some people who visited also have made less-than-kind remarks.
“We don’t want to talk about it,” he said. “That’s the best thing for us.”
This ties in nicely with another article regarding said liquor store robbery, where I was critical of the urinal (link), when they noted the location of the backup gun. So the sentiments that have been shared indicate that those (who still shop in the store?) in the neighborhood are upset about the clerk defending himself. It seems hypocritical for the paper who detailed the backup guns and their location to fret about the fears of the self-defenders of retribution, no?
Either way, it’s tough to tell whether the Urinal decided to pen this piece to prevent self-defense or just follow up because a majority of commenters are rooting for those who defend themselves. My view is clear: any scars left on those who defended themselves against people who attacked them or threatened their lives without provocation is just more victimization by the perpetrator.